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The Third Door: The Mindset of Success (Summary)

by Alex Banayan

How does an 18-year-old college freshman fund a mission to interview the world's most successful people? Simple. You hack The Price is Right. Alex Banayan found a loophole in the show's bidding system, won a sailboat, sold it for $17,700, and used the cash to chase down Bill Gates, Lady Gaga, and Steven Spielberg.

Success Has a Third Door

Life and success are like a nightclub. There are three ways in. The First Door is the main entrance where 99% of people wait in line. The Second Door is the VIP entrance for billionaires and celebrities. But there's always a Third Door—the unconventional path of sneaking in the kitchen, climbing through a window, or befriending the bouncer.

To get an interview with legendary music producer Quincy Jones, Banayan didn't just call his office. After being repeatedly rejected, he discovered Jones's ex-wife was a neighbor, befriended her housekeeper over several months, and eventually got an introduction. That was his Third Door.

Find Your 'Inside Man'

You can't break into a new world alone. Finding someone on the inside who believes in you and is willing to vouch for you can change everything. This person isn't always the person at the top.

To get to Warren Buffett, Banayan realized he couldn't approach him directly. He relentlessly researched until he found a key executive at Berkshire Hathaway, Debbie Bosanek. He focused all his energy on respectfully getting her attention, which eventually led to an invitation to the annual shareholder meeting—a crucial step forward.

Borrow Credibility When You Have None

When you're starting with no track record, you can 'borrow' credibility by associating yourself with respected people or institutions, even in small ways, to get your foot in the door.

To secure his first interviews, Banayan was just a no-name college student. He created a fake 'interview series' for his college newspaper and cold-emailed influential people, framing his request as a student project. This borrowed the credibility of the university and made his pitch seem far more legitimate.

Rejection is a Clue, Not a Stop Sign

Successful people don't see rejection as a dead end. They treat it as feedback, a puzzle to be solved, or a sign that they need to change their approach, not their goal.

When trying to interview Tim Ferriss, Banayan was repeatedly shut down by his gatekeepers. Instead of giving up, he analyzed the rejections and realized his standard approach was the problem. He then switched tactics entirely, volunteering to work for free at one of Ferriss's events, which finally got him the face-to-face access he needed.

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